When people tell you "you never get over it, you just learn to live with it" You have no idea what that means. They aren't talking about re learning to make 2 sippies at bed time not 3, they don't mean to make sure you remember to grab 2 pairs of shoes instead of 3 like you are use to. They mean you will learn to deal with that emptiness in your heart. They mean to forget how love use to feel because its going to be different the rest of your life. They mean you will always feel like you have forgotten something and always have the erg to look back. That's what they mean. All of the rest you have to get over. You have to deal with cause forgetting that you had a child die, you will get over but you will never get over the emptiness in your heart.